It’s so much easier to point a finger and blame others when things don’t go right.
I remember being attracted to liars, cheater, and commitment phoebes (well not really), but was the type of guy I attracted. I tried hard to change my dating narrative. The first thing I did was work on changing them (this never works). Then I tried to change me to see if it would change them (another epic fail).
I have since learned an attraction for bad boys stems from the in ability to self assess and grow. The reality is you attract your equal and if you are a mess you are going to meet someone with equal or heavier baggage. The best thing you can do to change the course of your life is commit to working on you.
It takes courage to look yourself in the mirror and take responsibility for your life – I learned this the hard way. Where you are today is a direct result of decisions you have made up to this point.
If things are not going the way you think they should be and you find yourself pointing the finger at current and past boyfriends and or even other people in your life – it time to return the blame to it’s proper owner, and that would be you.
I still hear my Grandmother’s voice telling me “When you point one finger as someone else you have four fingers pointing back at you – so what are you going to do about it.”
You have the ability to change the direction of your life. No one has or will ever have a great influence on your life than you. If you are not happy with the narrative of your past you have the ability to write the script for your future. You and only you have the power to take charge.
I get it an Ex boyfriend may have bleed dry financially, he may have been a toxic cheater, and a too liar. Your Father may have abandoned you been just like your Ex. You may even be struggling with your self-worth and self-confidence right now, but you are not a victim – unless you want to be. You have the power and the ability to fight back, but it’s up to you to decide how the script will read from this day forward. It’s up to you to decide if you are going to continue on this path or move in a new direction.
You have to start at home and work on you. You have to change the script for your own life before adding new characters (boyfriend/husband).
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