Bad relationships take their toll over time. They demolish confidence, self-esteem and can be downright dangerous. Unfortunately, some are addicted to them and repeatedly find themselves in the same situation. Below are 8 signs of an addiction to bad relationships along with advice on how to break the cycle.
You’ve Never Been Able to Find Emotional Support from a Partner
This means your picker is off and you’re making the wrong selections. You deserve a partner that you feel comfortable turning to when times get tough or when you just need to talk to get your emotions out. A healthy relationship requires emotional support. Finding that in a partner should slowly come about as a relationship progresses. The signs to look for include a willingness to pay attention, the effort made to perk you up when you’re down and patience.
You Subconsciously Seek Partners Who Bring Down Your Self-Esteem
Not only is seeking partners who bring down your self-esteem a sign that you’re addicted to bad relationships but it indicates that your partner’s self- esteem is compromised. That person had to knock someone down a few notches to feel superior. Think back to the last time a partner tried to make you feel dumb or not good enough. How did you respond? When others would stand up for themselves and break things off, did you try to improve yourself to gain approval? If so, break the cycle by slowly taking steps to improve your self-esteem. Forgive yourself for mistakes made, learn to focus on the positive, encourage yourself and challenge negative thought patterns.
Your Partners Often Go MIA for Long Periods of Time
Tolerating this may be a sign that you don’t feel worthy of someone’s time let alone the courtesy of a phone call, text or conversation in person. Someone who truly cares about you wouldn’t suddenly go missing just because they want to or made other plans. Emergencies and business trips are the exception but disappearing out of the blue is concerning. Additionally, it leaves you in the dark allowing negative thoughts to run wild.
You Regularly Date People Who Test Your Morals
Bad boys aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. Once you get past the mystery and sex appeal, bad is all that’s left. An attraction to partners who take part in unethical if not illegal activity may even result in you being brought down with them. A good partner will make you a better person and have similar morals rather than test yours. To find that, try meeting men with the same hobbies, interests, and passions. For example, if you volunteer, see if there is a fellow volunteer you’re interested in.
You’ve Caught More Than One Partner Lying About Something Serious
When most would run, you stayed. Now, why is that? Chances are, you wanted the relationship to work so badly that you “looked past it” or he talked his way back. The problem with this is setting yourself up to be on the receiving end of more lies. Being with a liar is toxic and at some point, you may find yourself lying to avoid embarrassment or downright shame caused by dating a dishonest person. You’re better than that.
You Tend to Pick Partners That Make You Feel More Sad Than Happy
When a partner doesn’t make you happy, that person is all wrong for you. Do relationships have challenges? Yes. Will there be moments of sadness? Perhaps, but the good should outweigh the bad.
You’ve Never Experienced True Compromise in a Relationship
Compromise is what a lasting relationship is all about. At one point, you should give something up to make your significant other happy and they should compromise for you too. If you give and all your partner does is take, it affects your confidence and self-worth. Worst of all, not addressing the issue gives partners the impression that they don’t have to compromise for you.
You’ve Faced Emotional or Physical Abuse in Multiple Relationships
No one deserves abuse and those who find themselves in abusive relationship after abusive relationship must change the pattern. This starts by realizing your worth and is followed by the realization that you deserve a partner that treats you with love and respect. Sometimes the best way to make the change is taking time to yourself. Being single and using that time for self-exploration will help determine what you want and need in a relationship. If the problem is deeper like growing up in an abusive household, seek professional help to work though those issues.
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