Let’s be clear – you should never consider compromising things that make you who you are. According to many experts, compromises are reflections of our intelligence. (1) However, there are situations when we should not make compromises because these things affect your happiness. Some compromises can also impact who you are. The following is a list of 6 compromises you should never make:
Hiding who you are to prevent your man from feeling uncomfortable or insignificant
People are not created equal. Each of us has different traits, background, thoughts, and characteristics. But, this does not mean you should consider changing who you are – because you man feels uncomfortable or insignificant as a result of that. If he truly loves you, he will respect you for who you are. If he feels insignificant or uncomfortable it may be caused by a lack self-confidence or self-esteem, however you are not the cause. Instead of making compromises, you should both consider working on personal growth.
Every now and then, people in a relationship may say thing they do not mean or in a joking manner. However, if these innocent jokes become frequent and they make you uncomfortable, you should speak with your man about how his words make you feel right away. Ideally I would recommend having a conversation with him in private, however if there is an urgent need to address his action as things are playing out don’t be afraid to step away from children, friends, or relatives to have a heart to heart conversation. They need to understand that this type of behavior won’t be tolerated. A person who loves you will respect you in public and in private.
Your personal and professional goals
Everyone should have personal and professional goals. If you are in a relationship your man should not stand in the way of you accomplishing your goals. Of course, there are situations where both of you have to make compromises in order to bring balance between your life and work, but this doesn’t mean that you should give up on your goals – you should be able to make small adjustments to modify them or slow down the pace (temporarily).
Your personal health should be your top priority. If you are not healthy you can expect difficulty in every area of your life to include your relationship. You should never compromise on things that may impact your overall mental or physical health.
Finally, every person has a value system, which includes his or her basic thoughts, views, opinions and beliefs. It is rare that you meet a person that shares the same values, but if you are in love with a person who has different believe system, you should not try to find common ground. If your belief systems are too far off you will have to consider walking away from the relationship. If you decide to continue the relationship they may be challenges down the road as your relationship progresses and you being grow a family together.
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