If you want to get married, you must prepare yourself for a husband. This doesn’t require you to be there for him or to cook his favorite meal. Of course preparing his favorite meal will be a perk once you get married but now we are talking about YOU. Entering a marriage without being your very best self is tough. When you enter a marriage knowing who you are and the value you bring to the marriage it can enhance the success of the marriage!
Let’s discuss seven things you must do to prepare yourself for a husband.
You Must Love Yourself
Yep, you must love yourself before you can love anyone else this puts you in the best position open up and receive their love. Getting to that place isn’t as difficult as you think. It involves getting to truly know yourself, identifying your positive traits, and embracing your imperfections as well as caring for yourself and making you a priority. Even more importantly, loving yourself means living life in a way that is in your best interest because, without happiness and fulfillment, there’s no self-love.
Learn to Enjoy Your Own Company
When married, it is easy to lose sight of yourself as well as your independence because your partner is always there. Becoming “one” is great – to an extent. However, a marriage with two independent individuals is more likely to thrive when you learned to enjoy your own company prior to marriage. You can get started by spending at least one quiet evening alone at least once home per week. During that time, do something that you’ll really enjoy whether that’s relaxing in a warm bubble bath, binge-watching your favorite television show or treating yourself to a manicure and pedicure. Then, move on to going out and doing something you like solo (like shopping). Spending time with you will allow you to learn the things you enjoy and the things that are not as exciting; once you know this it will be easier to share who you are with your husband and find common ground to build on.
Develop Unshaken Confidence
The hard truth is that your confidence will be tested when you are married. Just like other relationships, you can face problems like jealousy. The cause of this jealousy can be anything from another person like your spouse’s friend/coworker to strides your partner is making in his career. We’re human meaning anyone is susceptible to feeling a tinge of jealousy but developing unshaken confidence will keep it at a minimal level. Insecurity can ruin relationships so improve yours by honing in on all that is amazing about you. Do this with regular positive affirmations, taking part in activities that make you happy, combatting negative thoughts, being kind, showing generosity, boosting your competence and, of course, making sure you look good! Over time, your confidence will be hard to shake.
Be the Woman God Called You to Be
This one is simple. A great preparation step for a husband is being the woman God called you to be. This basically means living the way God would want you to. This, in turn, will put you on the path to becoming your best self. Better yet, you’ll open yourself up to all the good things He has in store for you. Not to mention, leading with your virtues, values, and beliefs will help you find a match who is on the same page
Be Financially Stable – Bring Something to the Table
Research done at the University of Connecticut suggests that being financially dependent on a spouse makes you more likely to cheat. The study also suggests that men who are breadwinners are more likely to cheat while women who “bring home the bacon” are less likely. Either way, the study emphasizes the importance of both parties bringing something to the table.
Clean Up Emotionally
Before you even think about entering wedded bliss with a great guy, dump any existing baggage you have because you need to start fresh. Your husband isn’t that jerk who cheated on you 3 years ago, he isn’t that mess of a man you were engaged to or that disrespectful fool you wasted too much time on. Even more importantly, he doesn’t have to pay for their mistakes. Take the steps to heal and recover to effectively dispose of your emotional baggage.
Take Care of Yourself
This means staying active, eating well, fulfilling your emotional needs and making sure you are happy with your physical appearance as well (hair, clothes, makeup). When preparing for a husband, you want to get taking care of you spot on before welcoming someone else into the equation. That way, no matter what happens in the future, you’ll still make time to care for yourself.
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