I settled a lot when I was dating. I even said yes to second, third, and forth dates – when I knew the dates were leading know where. I reasoned with myself, often becoming convinced it could not be too bad – after all we would have a nice conversation and he may eventually grow on me (which never happens).
What actually happens is the guy begins to annoy you until interactions with him become nauseating – leaving you no choice but to ghost him (discontinuing all contact and communication).
Over the years I have learned that we all want the same things.
- We want someone that makes us laugh until our stomach hurts.
- We want someone makes us smile for no reason at all.
- We want to become filled with the same joy we experienced growing up on Christmas morning – when the phone rings and it’s him.
- Ultimately we want to experience Butterflies.
Years ago I recall playing the lyrics to Alicia Keys song “Butterflyz. The words lifted me off my feet – I felt like she knew me without ever meeting me. In that moment it felt good to know I was not alone. I was not the only woman waiting to experience Butterflies. We all desire to have the very same thing, but the waiting season can be difficult.
Sometimes we get frustrated. This can lead us to question if God has forgotten about us. Maybe this doesn’t apply to you, however it surely applied to me.
If you are feeling or have felt frustrated with dating – you are not alone. The one thing I want you to do today is fix your focus. When we focus on the things we don’t have we are operating from a place of disparity (feeling like you do not have enough).
Take a moment to think about this:
Have you ever seen a Mother or Father that doesn’t have much, but they make a way to move mountains and give their child(ren) the world? They do this because ultimately they want to give their child(ren) the desires of their heart. The difficult piece of giving your child the world is sometimes they become ungrateful. This makes it difficult for parents to continue to give. Most parents will wait until their child(ren) has an attitude of gratitude before continuing to give.
Our relationship with God is very similar to the parent/child(ren) relationship. When we express gratitude and learn to appreciate the things we do have God continues to fill our cup.
So now what do you do……
Now is the perfect time to advance your career, help in your community, continue education, build and grow a business, grow in your faith, and most important be patient and trust Gods Plan. While you are busy becoming the best version of YOU, serving, and fulfilling Gods will – You just may meet your KING.
My life is a testament of Gods promise. My Butterflies were gifted on July 2, 2008 at 5pm EST – heading from work. I picked up dinner before going home to study and there he was.